Talking to someone who cannot answer in words can feel strange at first. You may run out of things to say or wonder whether you should be doing something more educational. You do not need a running commentary for the entire day.
The NHS guide to helping babies learn to talk suggests talking during everyday care, singing and responding to the sounds babies make. It also encourages parents to use the language that feels comfortable to them.
Borrow the words from what is happening
Pick one familiar moment. While putting on a cardigan, you could say, “Here is your sleeve. Now this arm.” When you look outside together, describe something you can both see. Ordinary words give you somewhere to start without having to invent a lesson.
Keep your attention on your baby and on safe care. You do not need to reach for a phone, toy or book to make the moment count. If another task needs your concentration, finish it safely and chat later.
Leave a little space
Try saying something and then pausing. Notice whether your baby makes a sound or changes their expression. You can answer the sound with a gentle response of your own. A pause is part of a conversation too.
Do not turn it into a test: “Say this. Now say that.” If your baby needs a break, let the interaction end. You can return to it when you are both more comfortable.
Use the songs and stories you know
A song from your own childhood, a made-up rhyme about socks or a few words about a picture are all possible starting points. You do not have to remember every verse. With a book, you can look at one picture rather than trying to reach the last page.
If more than one language is used at home, include those languages naturally. You do not need to replace the language of family life with English to make everyday conversation worthwhile.
Keep expectations kind
Our conversation prompts are invitations, not a timetable for when a baby should do something. Different families communicate in different ways, including through signs and other support. If you have questions about your baby’s hearing, speech or communication, talk to your health visitor or GP.
For today, choose one moment and a few words that sound like you. Familiarity can matter more than having something new to say.
Put it into practice
Use our free resource: Everyday baby chat: six conversation prompts to choose a small next step. Keep the parts that suit your family and adapt the rest.
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