You do not need a new activity box every week to spend time playing with your toddler. A familiar book, a song or something they are already interested in can give you a place to begin. Some days, a few ordinary minutes together are what you have.
The NHS suggests simple, inexpensive play such as sharing books and songs, and encourages adults to follow a toddler’s interests. These ideas turn that starting point into small things you can try at home.
Let them show you the game
Sit nearby and notice what your child is doing. If a toy car is going backwards and forwards, you could join in with another car rather than changing the activity. If they offer you pretend food, accept it. You do not need to turn every game into a lesson.
Try describing one thing you notice, then pause. “That bus has stopped by the cushion.” Leave room for a look, a sound, a gesture or a reply. There is no need to keep up a running commentary.
Try one of these familiar activities
- A favourite book: let your child choose a page and point to what interests them. Finishing the story is optional.
- A song you already know: repeat it, slow it down or leave a gap for a familiar sound or movement.
- Pretend play with familiar toys: teddy could be a passenger on the sofa bus or a guest at an imaginary picnic.
- A picture for someone: use age-appropriate drawing materials and let your child decide what the marks are.
Make it fit the day you are having
If you only have a short time, choose something that takes little setting up. If an activity is frustrating or your toddler moves away, you can stop. Repeating a favourite is fine.
Adapt the space and materials to your child’s abilities and interests. They might prefer to watch first, play alongside you or communicate without words. The activity can change to include them.
Keep the materials suitable
Stay with young children during activities. Choose materials suitable for their age and abilities, follow product age guidance and keep small parts out of reach. You do not need to use household items just because an online activity suggests them.
A small place to start
Ask yourself: “What has caught their attention today?” Join them there for a few minutes, if they welcome it.
For more ideas, see NHS baby and toddler play ideas and NHS playtime activities and bonding with your toddler.
