The help I could use: a parent’s worksheet

Sometimes it is easier to say “I’m fine” than explain what would make the day more manageable. This free worksheet gives you a place to work out what you need and how to ask for it.

Use it privately, or share only the parts you choose with someone you trust. Copy the prompts into a notebook or document, or print this page.

What is taking the most effort?

The part of family life that feels hardest today: ____________________
Something I am managing that other people might not see: ____________________

What kind of help would make a difference?

• Practical help, such as a meal, shopping or a household job.
• Company or someone to listen.
• Help finding information or making an appointment.
• Support with a nursery or school conversation.
• Something else that suits my situation.

One specific thing I would like help with: ____________________
When would it be useful? ____________________

Who could I ask?

A person or service I could approach: ____________________
How I would prefer to contact them: ____________________
What I am comfortable sharing: ____________________

Put the request into words

“Things are a bit stretched at the moment. Would you be able to help with __________ on __________? That would make __________ easier.”

“I do not need a solution straight away. Could you listen while I talk this through?”

“I am not sure what support is available. Could you help me work out who to contact?”

If that person cannot help

Another person or service I could try: ____________________
A smaller request that might be possible: ____________________

Someone being unavailable does not mean your need is unimportant. If you do not have people nearby to ask, Coram Family Lives is one place to look for parenting and family support. Check its website for current ways to get in touch.

One next step

The next thing I will do: ____________________

Asking for support belongs in parenting. You do not have to prove that you have tried everything on your own.