A friendship problem: story, choices and support
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Use this with a child who wants help with a friendship difficulty. They can write, draw or tell you the parts they want recorded. Do not make completing it a condition of receiving support.
What happened?
The part I want someone to understand: ____________________
Where and when it happened: ____________________
How it felt for me: ____________________
Whether something like this has happened before: ____________________
What would help now?
- Someone to listen.
- Help practising what to say.
- Help finding an adult at school.
- A plan to feel safe.
- Something else: ____________________.
Words I might use
“I felt ____________________ when ____________________.”
“I would like ____________________.”
“I need help with ____________________.”
These are options for an ordinary conversation, not instructions to confront someone who is frightening or hurting your child.
An adult’s next steps
What needs action now: ____________________
Who we will tell: ____________________
What we want the school or setting to help with: ____________________
When we will check back: ____________________
Take threats, discriminatory abuse, injury and repeated harm seriously. You do not need to wait for more incidents before asking for protection or support.
Beyond this problem
A person or activity that helps me feel included: ____________________
Something I would still like to enjoy this week: ____________________
Keep notes private and factual. For more on recognising bullying, read the Anti-Bullying Alliance guidance.